Roselyn Connor
March: The War on Womanhood


March is Women’s History Month.  That makes this blog very timely and appropriate. When I was born, my parents were congratulated by Dr. Mohre for having their third girl.  I was born female but it took time to become a woman. Any schoolboy and girl has learned in their first few biology classes the scientific, biological and logical definition of a male and female human being. They learn the emphatic truth that a female is chromosomally an XX and a male is XY.

Womanhood is a state of maturity and a delicate balance of very important issues that occurred in my life over time causing me to grow from being a girl into becoming a full woman. Nature made me a female but time and maturity made me a woman. It’s an issue of emotional growth. It is an amazing developmental process of understanding, nurturing, attitude, and spirituality. As a woman, I have learned my value and it is immense. I would never run from my femininity and womanhood; they are my strengths. Ignoring being a woman would be illogical and in direct opposition to a God-given tool that I have opted to use for my intended benefit. Women make huge mistakes when they forsake their womanhood in their attempt to gain success. What are they imitating; a man? At best, a woman can only poorly imitate a man and a man a woman. Nature has made each strong in their own way. To ignore those strengths or trying to blur the lines is fundamentally ineffective.

The war on womanhood didn’t just start this decade. It even started before some women thought igniting perfectly good undergarments somehow set them free.  There was a studied attempt to change the very framework of the strengths and perks of being a woman. There are many times when being a woman helps me as our American culture sets the tone for how we are treated in society. When I trained several Chicago police officers and went on “ride-alongs”, we frequently stopped gang members to check them for illegal items. At least 90% of the time, my presence as a woman caused the gang members to behave in a more civil manner. In other words, theses men had respect for me that they didn’t have for other males. That’s a strength and I like it. Why would I try to eliminate that or muddy it? 

It’s not just some men that have waged war on womanhood, but women. Recently a man walking through a door held it open for a woman coming behind him. She rightly thanked him but another woman seeing it began to berate the man and asked him why he did that. Are we so hungry for equality that even opening doors empowers us? Really? I hope that man isn't marred and uninterested in ever opening a door for another woman. That woman who berated him has the wrong attitude on femininity. She is not alone. Our society is getting it wrong daily. Many women were shocked and insulted when Bruce Jenner was named "woman of the year" by a very confused staff at Glamour magazine. That was a great example of the war on womanhood. 

We have fought the wrong battles and have ignored the very things that won wars. True femininity is to be enjoyed, embraced and utilized for the strength it is. Waging a war on womanhood is counterproductive and has no merit. Instead of thinking that being a real woman is debasing and un-empowering, we must celebrate and recognize our strengths as natural women. They are, after all, God-given.


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